Unlike in men, orgasms don’t come so easily in women. Many women have never really experienced what a true orgasm feels like instead, a lot of women find themselves faking orgasms just to make their partners feel good.
Here are a few reasons why you may be finding it difficult to reach an orgasm:
1. Poor communication of sexual needs with your partner: Unless your partner is a magician,he’s not going to know what areas of your body cause you to be sexually aroused if you don’t tell or show it to him. Try to let your partner know what you want or don’t want in bed, good communication goes a long way in enhancing your s exual experience.
2. Poor sexual performance from your partner: If your partner fails to meet your
s exual demands or expectations, it may be difficult or almost impossible for you to reach an orgasm. This is another situation where you need to communicate your needs to your partner either directly or with subtle hints, you may be surprised to find that your partner is not even aware of them.
3. Lack of connection with your partner: It’s difficult to be s exually aroused when you’re with someone you have no physical or emotional connection with, hoping to reach an orgasm with such a partner may be asking too much. For married couples, marriage counselling may be helpful in this case.
4. History of sexual abuse or rape: Women who have been s exually abused or raped in the past may find it difficult to enjoy s ex because of the psychological trauma and bad memories associated with it. Such women may have difficulty reaching orgasms and would benefit from seeing a psychologist to help them recover from the trauma and learn to enjoy the act again.
5. Side effects of certain drugs: Certain drugs can interfere with your libido, taking such drugs usually interferes with your ability to reach an orgasm. The problem is usually solved once such drugs are discontinued.
6. Medical or Gynecological issues: Diseases or surgeries affecting the reproductive system can cause pain during intercourse or decreased libido. Treatment of the underlying disease or condition usually results in resolution.
7. Old age: Decrease in estrogen levels during menopause can lead to decreased libido which ultimately affects the ability to reach an orgasm.
8. Other Psychological issues: Including stress, anxiety, depression, low self esteem, fear of getting pregnant or contracting
sexually transmitted diseases may affect your ability to enjoy sex and thus prevent you from reaching an orgasm. To solve this problem, relax and take everything else off your mind, focus on enjoying sex with your partner rather than worrying about other things.
Finally, don’t always expect to have the kind of orgasms that are being portrayed by the media,most of it is not real,intensity and frequency of orgasms vary from woman to woman.