Later that evening, Olamide had a heart to heart discussion with Tomi’s best friend, Oreoluwa. I still can’t believe she’s gone”, he said with tears in his eyes. “ How did it really happen?”
“I can’t believe it either”, Ore replied wearing a long face. “The doctor said she had an ectopic pregnancy”.
“Pregnancy? I didn’t even know she was pregnant”, Olamide exclaimed looking surprised. “I know,” Ore replied. “ She wanted to surprise you with the news as a birthday gift next Tuesday.” Tears began to roll down his eyes as he felt another sudden rush of guilt.
“What is an ectopic pregnancy?” he asked. “ It is a pregnancy that is located outside of the womb” Ore answered. “It can be in the abdomen, ovaries, neck of the womb or fallopian tube which is the most common site for an ectopic pregnancy.”
“So what could have put her at risk of having it?” Olamide questioned further. “She may have had an infection in the past that affected her fallopian tubes, ovaries or her womb, such infections are usually sexually transmitted.”
“But Tomi never had any infection”, he replied. “She could have had one in the past even before you met her”, Ore suggested. ”What else could possibly put her at risk?” Olamide asked probing further. “Smoking, previous ectopic pregnancy or a pregnancy that occurred while she was taking hormonal contraceptives”. “So how would she have known it was ectopic?” Olamide asked. “Sorry if I’m asking too many questions”, he said wiping tears from his eyes with trembling hands.
“It’s ok”, Ore said offering him a tissue. “ You see, initially, an ectopic pregnancy may not show any signs or symptoms, the first symptom will of course be that she would miss her period like every normal pregnancy and a pregnancy test done will come out with the result as positive. Later signs may include vaginal bleeding or severe abdominal or pelvic pain.”
“Wow” Olamide said, totally overwhelmed. “Is that how it happened for Tomi?”
“Unfortunately hers was worse. By the time we found her, she was already in a bad state, her abdomen was beginning to swell because her fallopian tube had ruptured and she had already started bleeding into the abdominal cavity before she fainted”, Ore replied. Olamide looked terrified as Ore continued to explain, “swelling of the abdomen, light headedness or fainting in early pregnancy are possible signs and symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy”.
“That’s serious ”, Olamide said shaking his head. “Yes it is”, Ore responded. “Any pregnant woman found to be in that condition must be rushed to the hospital for immediate medical attention. Tomi unfortunately did not get that opportunity, she was alone at home.”
Olamide felt a stabbing pain in his chest on hearing those words. Tomi had tried calling him that night, probably while she was in pain and needed his help but Lara had switched off his phone. “So how did she die?” Olamide asked feeling a lump forming in his throat.
“She bled to death”, Ore replied. “She was bleeding internally after her fallopian tubes got ruptured. By the time we rushed her to the hospital, it was too late, She had lost too much blood.”
“How do you know so much about ectopic pregnancies?” Olamide asked. Tomi let out a huge sigh as she responded, “ I lost my sister to an ectopic pregnancy five years ago and that prompted me to do further research on it. The doctor we met at the hospital we rushed Tomi to also took his time to explain everything to us.”
“I admire your courage”, Olamide said, “sorry about your sister.”
“It’s Ok”, Ore said patting his back. “You should get some rest now, you’ve had a long day.”
“I don’t know if I can ever rest”, Olamide said. “I hope I will eventually forgive myself one day. If only I could turn back the hands of time, I would never cheat on my wife.”