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3 types of personality disorders to look out for in relationships

Dr. Anderson



Having discussed the other two clusters with the seven (7) disorders therein, nothing remains but to plunge headlong into the third cluster.
Cluster C is regarded as the anxious/fearful cluster, which contains the remaining three (3) personality disorders. These disorders cover a broad spectrum of bosses, employees, spouses and business partners. That’s if you are in the market for “specialized relationships.” If you are, Bon apetit!

1 . Avoidant personality disorder
Avoidant patients are generally very shy. They display a pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, and excessive sensitivity to rejection. However, unlike patients with schizoid personality disorder, they actually desire relationships with others but are paralyzed by their fear and sensitivity into social isolation. Sounds like you? Well, that was me in nursery 2 but the paralysis was only limited to one person — Diana…I was “cured” when she got double promotion.
Major traits include the following:
-Lack of close friends and unwillingness to get involved unless certain of being liked.
-Avoidance of social activities and fear of criticism.
-Embarrassment or anxiety in front of people.



On a more serious note, this disorder holds its sufferers back from maximising their potential and that’s what makes it of such significant economic importance. Relationships can be very awkward as you have to go the extra mile to get close these special people.




2. Dependent personality disorder
While many people exhibit dependent behaviors and traits, people with dependent personality disorder have an excessive need to be taken care of that results in submissive and clinging behavior, regardless of consequences.



Diagnosis requires at least 5 of the following features:
-Difficulty making decisions without guidance and reassurance.
-Need for others to assume responsibility for most major areas of the person’s life. (Just in case anything goes wrong, they’re not to blame)
-Difficulty expressing disagreement with others. (Basically they’re people pleasers)
-Difficulty initiating activities because of lack of confidence.
-Excessive measures to obtain physical and emotional care and support.
-Discomfort or helplessness when alone.
-Urgent seeking for another relationship when one has ended. (That’s a red flag brothers, blood red!)
-Unrealistic preoccupation with fears of being left to fend for themselves.




3. Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder

People with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCD) display the following traits:
-Preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism, and control; Lack of flexibility or openness.

-Reluctance to delegate tasks.
-An excessive devotion to work, with the exclusion of leisure activity. (You would think these would make the best employees ever. Unfortunately, however, such preoccupations interfere with efficiency, despite the individual’s focus on a task.)
Other features include:
-Scrupulousness and inflexibility with regard to matters of morality, ethics, and values to a point beyond cultural norms. (Gray areas do not exist with these people. It’s white or black. They would make terrible Radiologists)
In many cases, stinginess and stubbornness are characteristic features, (which makes them even less likeable).
However, deep down they crave understanding. Once you understand their tics and idiosyncrasies, they’re quite simple, really.
All in all we’ve discussed ten (10) special personality disorders ranging from eccentric to dramatic to the downright fearful. You may be quick to point out the Looney bin because you feel they’re a few sandwiches short of a picnic but beyond therapy, they need your support, now that you know. They’re addicted to their tics but like a wise man said, “The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, the opposite of addiction is connection. I won’t deny that they need help but honestly, don’t we all?



P.S: some other personality disorders are not specified in this series. These are disorders of personality functioning that do not meet the criteria for any specific personality disorder.

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Dr Anderson is a graduate of Lagos State University College of Medicine who is on a mission to build a national team of healthcare professionals with international affiliations, which will bring basic healthcare to the poorest in society and increase National income from Medical tourism. He is a proud member of various reputable bodies including the Nigerian Medical Association (NMA), Lagos chapter, the World Safety Organisation and the Christian Medical and Dental Association, Nigeria (CMDA Nigeria). He also belongs to the Medical College of Surgeons. He is an MDCN(Medical and Dental Council of Nigeria) and HSE 1, 2, 3 certified doctor. When he is not busy reading, writing or doing some public speaking, you can find him dancing, playing chess or watching movies.