There was a knock on the door shortly after, and it was the midwives bringing my babies in… no I’ll rephrase that, it was the midwives bringing OUR babies in. It felt so good to know that I wouldn’t be raising my twins alone; I had been prepared to face the challenges of being a single mum but God had much better surprises for me.
Following right behind the midwives was my mum, Yemi, Charly, Jumai and Sean, they hadn’t allowed them to stay overnight so they had gone home and returned early that morning; they came in with blue and pink helium balloons and cards Saying ” congrats, it’s a boy” and “congrats, it’s a girl.” Chinedu had called Yemi earlier to inform them of the good news that I had delivered a boy and girl.
Trust my mum to be the odd one out, she came all dressed up in her Sunday best with a giant gele on her head to complete the dressing, as she danced into the room singing at the top of her voice; she literally snatched our baby boy from one of the midwives who was too shocked to even react. The other hurriedly handed our daughter to me; one could easily tell she was being careful to avoid another baby-snatching stunt from any of my crazy guests.
I couldn’t stop staring in awe at our little princess, as she lay sleeping peacefully in my arms, she had my eyes and nose, I could already tell she was going to be a mini-me. Seconds later, my mother finally put our son down to lie beside me after she was done with her dance display. He actually looked like his father just like the anesthetist had said, the only difference was that we were referring to two different fathers. For a split second, my mind flashed back to Tolu, I wondered what he could be doing at that moment; I imagined he was probably luring another one of his unsuspecting victims into his pants as usual. As shocking as it may sound, he never even bothered to find out if I kept the pregnancy. As a matter of fact, I hadn’t decided if I would ever tell the twins about him yet. Thinking about it was beginning to get me upset, so I quickly shoved the thoughts away and decided to enjoy the moment I was having with the twins.
I kept staring at them and smiling to myself. At one time, I looked round the room and couldn’t help but feel loved; I was surrounded by friends who had become family… we had come a long way right from our University days and there were lessons to be learnt from each of our love stories. Jumai’s marriage to Abdul taught me not to be envious of other people’s relationships or marriages because you never know what ugly battles they may be fighting behind closed doors. It also made me realise that sometimes in marriage, instead of suffering in silence, it’s better to speak out and cry for help from someone who can be trusted… No woman should allow herself to become a victim of domestic violence!
Charly’s experience made me realise that getting your heart broken by someone you sacrificed everything for is not the end of the world; if you’re willing, you’ll find happiness again just like she did with Ken. Be rest assured that Karma will catch up with the idiot that broke your heart like it did with Moyo and his wife even though sometimes you may not be lucky enough to watch it happen.
I will definitely miss Oby; she taught me to be strong, and her story is proof that time heals all wounds. In spite of all she went through, she was able to pick the pieces of her life and move on, and now, she’s a happy bunny who is currently working with her dream company in America. Who’d have ever thought that was possible?
Yemi might not have been so lucky in love, but there’s a lesson to be learnt from her as well… we shouldn’t be so much in a hurry to get married that we ignore all the red flags and warning signs we or others around notice in our partners. I’m happy she has gotten over the disappointment, in spite of her indecision on whether or not to get a divorce.
As expected,my friends began a photoshoot session with the twins and I, when Charly began cracking silly jokes, making everyone laugh while the phone cameras clicked away. “Do these twins have names yet?” Comedian-Charly asked with a mischievous smile on her face “because if they don’t, I vote to name them Tom and Jerry,” she said laughing… “Of course they do,” I replied much to everyone’s surprise, “her name is Daniella and his name is Daniel,” I announced with a smile. I had chosen to call them those names because they were Hebrew names which meant “God has judged”. That phrase simply summed up the story of my life. I had made a lot of mistakes in the past, some of which I thought would make me miserable for life, but God judged me. Now i have an amazing life partner just when I had given up on meeting the man of my dreams, and now we’re getting ready to walk down the aisle.
When I first started telling my story, I mentioned that it was fun not having any guy to “worry” about. As much as that is true I’d like to add a little twist to it; when you’re with the right guy, you won’t have to “worry” in the first place.
A lot of ladies like me want to find love and be married but, unfortunately, so many women are too busy dreaming about their fairy tale wedding to think about what happens afterwards. We need to remember that a successful marriage goes beyond a beautiful wedding ceremony; marriage is not a bed of roses and love is not just a feeling, it’s a choice.
Sometimes you may find yourself kissing many frogs before meeting your Prince, like Charly and I, but whatever the case, never settle for a frog like Yemi did till you meet your prince.
Be rest assured that there’s a special person out there who would love you even when you find it difficult to love yourself.
The next time you think about giving up on love, just remember, “if Tessy could find love, then I can.”
Thanks for following me on this crazy journey to finding love. I must stop here now…
For those who have yet to find love, hang in there and keep being yourself, Love will find you soon. For those who’ve found love already, I celebrate with you!
Love is truly a beautiful thing!
Adios my dear friends, keep being the best you can till we meet again…
The soon to be married Lagos babe.